I can’t begin to tell you the number of times I’ve heard the suggestion that instead of accusing your spouse of doing something you don’t like, you should re-frame your statement as: When ____ happens, I feel ______. It’s a bedrock of communication advice, and it was overtly taught in my graduate counseling program. You’ll find […]
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There’s been a theme in my head this week: Using the right words. Not only was it the topic of my Thursday post (Q&A with J: “What Should We Call Persistent Porn Use?”), it’s also been on my mind because of a disagreement I had with husband (yes, we have those, just like you do)
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Usually on Thursdays, I answer a reader’s question. Today, I want y’all to answer my question. Here it is: What should we call ongoing and persistent porn use? If you read various marriage blogs, you might have seen some recent discussion about porn “habit” vs. “addiction.” (You can see my post here.) Some say it’s a
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I was listening to Wait Wait … Don’t Tell Me!, the NPR news quiz game show, and they mentioned an odd study about sex. Of course, I had to go look it up. So here’s what happened: Upbeat Active (a fitness company) commissioned research tracking how many muscles are used for various activities. They learned that
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This year, I’ve been focused on Praying More, especially for our marriage beds. It recently occurred to me that I often say to someone, “Praying for you…” I’ve said it many times in the comments section of my blog, in email replies to readers who contact me, to those who mention on my Facebook page
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