For the contest, entrants write or video what they would want a radio host to read to their spouse on air and include a link to their chosen love song and artist. There are more contest rules and details on the website, but I love this idea.
Here are just a few possibilities for my list:
Somewhere during our engaged/early marriage days, hubby started singing (a little off-key) a song for me at random times: You Are So Beautiful to Me. I love the sentiments within, but I confess — I’m not a Joe Cocker fan, so I’m sharing a version by the man who co-wrote the song, Billy Preston (a duet with Ruth Jacott). This song is great for slow dancing!
I could get realistic about the journey of marriage — learning to live with someone who is not like you in every way and unlike you in some very annoying ways — and suggestLet’s Call the Whole Thing Off. It’s been recorded by many singers, but who doesn’t like a bit of Harry Connick Jr. (from one of my favorite movies ever)?
Or hey, I could simply hearken back to my college days and suggest this straightforward song from Sinead O’Connor: I Want Your Hands on Me. Yeah, that’s true of how I feel about my husband.
But without a doubt, I know my favorite love song. It’s a standard, written by George and Ira Gershwin, and performed many times through the years. However, I’m a huge Gene Kelly fan, and I first fell head over heels for the song in An American in Paris:
[Incomplete video, but it’s the best one I could find…]
The song has become even more beautiful and meaningful for me, because it matches how I feel about my husband, Despite the hardships and odds being against us at times, our relationship has stood the test of time. We are here to stay, because we’ve decided to be. We make that commitment, prioritize our relationship, and pursue intimacy.
What should the DJ say in the introduction?
I dedicate this song to Spock,” my loving husband of more than 20 years. We may not be typical in many ways, and plenty of times it would have been smarter to bet against us. We brought baggage into our marriage, had different expectations, faced plenty of challenges, and thought sometimes we wouldn’t make it. But God’s grace and our persistence have brought us to a place of deeper love and joy. You are the only one I want, the only one I love — and our love is absolutely here to stay.
Your turn. What song would you dedicate to hubby? Or wife? Be sure to share your pick with your spouse! (And you’re welcome to borrow any of my suggestions for your choice or just to get things started this weekend. 😉 )
On Monday, I discussed the dangers of our current sexualized music. Turn on the radio or check the music trends, and you’ll find that many of today’s songs are full of explicit descriptions and words about sex. They often convey a completely different view of sex than what God desires us to have.
But today, I want to get practical. If we shouldn’t listen to music that cheapens sex (see Philippians 4:8; Psalm 101:3; and Proverbs 4:23-24), can we listen to any music about sex?
I think we can. There is nothing sordid about God-honoring lovemaking in marriage, and a little background music can set the stage for physical intimacy. I trolled my own playlist and did some research to come up with a suggested intimacy playlist for married couples. Some of what I came up with is simply romantic, and other tunes are more obviously about sex.
Several things to keep in mind as you peruse the suggestions below:
I divided songs into categories, knowing that some of you wouldn’t listen to a country (R&B/classical/etc.) song even if you were stranded on Gilligan’s Island and it was the only station the Professor’s radio could get. But you might be surprised to find something you and your spouse would like a category you don’t normally enjoy, so try to keep an open mind.
By highlighting a song here, I am not condoning other music from these artists or even the videos that accompany these tunes. Use your own standards and common sense when deciding which music to purchase.
The criterion for inclusion is that the lyrics are appropriate and can be construed to talk about a married couple. That does not mean that the composer and lyricist had that in mind when writing the song, but these songs do not obviously violate Christian ethics.
While these songs are appropriate for me and hubby in the bedroom, that does not mean that they are all okay to be on my kid’s MP3 player. Adults are ready for some details, especially in the marital context, that children are not ready for. Use your parental noggin for when and where it’s appropriate to play your marital intimacy music.
Tastes vary. Quite honestly, I’d happily make love to Toccata & Fugue in D minor by Bach, but since this is an unusual choice, I left it out. Still, consider your own tastes when you come up with a playlist. Hey, if you and your honey enjoy gettin’ it on to Mustang Sally, who am I to argue? Don’t slow that Mustang down!
As you pull together a playlist of your own, think about programming. That is, vary the rhythm and mood. For a marital intimacy playlist, you may want to start with something slow or easygoing (invitation), build up to faster or more intense songs (foreplay & climax), and then finish with something relaxing (afterglow).
With the fabulous help of some Facebook friends, here are some songs you might want to play while lovemaking with your spouse.
Classical Blue Danube Waltz by Johann Strauss II Bolero by Maurice Ravel (For those old enough to recall, this was the classical song played in the movie “10.”) Cello suite No.1 Prelude in G Major by Johann Sebastian Bach Claire de Lune by Claude Debussy Liebestraum No 3 in A flat by Franz Liszt Piano Concerto No 21 in C, 2nd movement (Elvira Madigan) by Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart Rhapsody on a Theme of Paganini (Variation 18) by Sergei Rachmaninoff Romeo and Juliet (Fantasy Overture: Love Theme) byPyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky (You’ll recognize it.)
Country Breathe by Faith Hill It’s Your Love by Tim McGraw and Faith Hill Let’s Make Love by Tim McGraw and Faith Hill More Than Everything by Rhett Atkins (attributes love to God) Me and You by Kenny Chesney Then by Brad Paisley Your Man by Josh Turner
Oldies (but Goodies) Can’t Take My Eyes Off You by Frankie Valli & The Four Seasons I Love How You Love Me by The Paris Sisters I Only Have Eyes for You by The Flamingos I Want You, I Love You, I Need You by Elvis Presley Unchained Melody by Righteous Brothers
Pop All for You by Imelda May (or really jazz) – my new sassy fave! Annie’s Song by John Denver Have You Really Ever Loved a Woman? by Bryan Adams I Don’t Want to Miss a Thing by Aerosmith Let’s Make a Night to Remember by Bryan Adams Longer by Dan Fogelberg Truly, Madly, Deeply by Savage Garden Underneath Your Clothes by Shakira Wanted by Hunter Hayes Your Body Is a Wonderland by John Mayer (By the way, “damn” is used once.)
R&B Close the Door by Teddy Pendergrass Feel Like Makin’ Love to You by Roberta Flack I’ll Make Love to You by Boyz II Men Let’s Get It On by Marvin Gaye Loving Me for Me by Christina Aguilera Natural Woman by Aretha Franklin Nobody by Keith Sweat and Athena Gage That’s the Way Love Goes by Janet Jackson Tonight I Celebrate My Love by Peabo Bryson & Roberta Flack
Rock Baby, I Love Your Way by Peter Frampton Fat Bottomed Girls by Queen – No!!! Don’t you dare play this for your wife. Just checking to see if you’re still paying attention. Feel Like Making Love by Bad Company Lay, Lady, Lay by Bob Dylan (If you’re among those who don’t like Dylan’s unique voice, Duran Duran and Magnet have covers of this song.) Light My Fire by the Doors Love of a Lifetime by Firehouse
Standards Kiss by Dean Martin (and pretty much anything else by him. LOVE Dean Martin. Can you tell?) Misty by Ella Fitzgerald Teach Me Tonight by Dinah Washington Unforgettable by Nat King Cole You Give Me Fever by Peggy Lee (or try the version from Michael Buble or Bette Midler) You Go to My Head by Frank Sinatra or Sarah Vaughan
I also found this gem that I wanted to share from Christian Matt Maher, Set Me as a Seal:
By the way, regarding Barry White. Yes, he has quite a few songs that would set the mood for lovemaking. I’m not crazy about his talking instead of singing so much, so I didn’t put him on the list. But feel free to go through his music and see if you find anything you like. You can try out a lot of his tunes on YouTube or iTunes.
And for the uber-brave, there’s always The Beatles’ “Why Don’t We Do It in the Road?”
Floor’s open. What would you add? Please keep it to songs that we Christians can mostly agree would be beneficial for the marriage bed. And if you want to hear the songs listed above, head to my Facebook page where I’ve provided the playlists for Spotify.
“Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips.” Psalm 141:3
(If you know of any problems with the songs here, let me know. I filtered, but it’s a lot of music so I might have missed something.)