Welcome to another monthly roundup of recent posts, podcast episodes, recommended resources, and much more. Scroll through to find what you might have missed or your next great resource for marriage.
This Month on the Blog
I’m back to blogging twice a week in most weeks! Let’s hope I can continue.
- Finding the Right Sex Resource (+ Announcing My Next Book)
Which sex/marriage books are right for you? Tips on discovering what resource is best for you + J. Parker’s book for higher desire wives! - Our One (Sex) Word for 2025
Some people choose a single word to guide their new year. J shares the one word that could guide ALL of us regarding sex in 2025. - What If I Was Wrong About God Blessing Your Marriage Bed?
Does God want to bless our marriage bed? Yes, but it’s more complex than that. God has another, higher goal. - Get to the Root of Your Sex Problem with the 5 Whys
The Five Whys is a problem-solving technique that might help you uncover the root cause of your marriage’s sexual problems. - Struggling with Sex in Marriage? Here’s What To Do First.
I’ve received hundreds of messages from married couples asking for help with their sex life. Here’s what I often suggest first. - Is There Mission Drift in Your Marital Intimacy?
Has your marital intimacy drifted? It’s easy to get off track, including with sex. Here’s how to address mission drift! - Why Isn’t Sex Like What You See in Movies?
Sex scenes in movies (and TV) have given us a wrong impression of what sex is really like. Here’s the truth…and how it’s better!
From Sex Chat for Christian Wives Podcast
- Episode 108: Prioritizing Sex – Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Episode 109: Your Sexual Self – Sex Chat for Christian Wives
From Knowing Her Sexually Podcast
- Episode 32: What Does Your Wife Need Before You Enter?
- Episode 33: When Sex Hurts Her – Knowing Her Sexually
My Post at KHS Ministry
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A Few Great Reads Elsewhere
- Wow. Gary Thomas nailed it with this one! An Incompatible Marriage that Glorifies God | Gary Thomas. “What if, instead of telling everyone how good we have it at home, we honestly testified that it is God’s grace alone that keeps us together?”
- I keep sharing posts from Chris Taylor, but she’s been writing some great stuff. This one I totally relate to and appreciate! It’s “real advice from real Christian wives who suffer from chronic illness or pain.” Sex Advice for Wives with Chronic Illness – Honeycomb & Spice
Recommended Resources & Products
I recently attended my best friend’s son’s wedding! What a wonderful experience, since I’ve known that kid since he was two years old and now he’s grown, married, and thriving.
But it brought to mind that I want to put together a resource list for newlyweds. I’ll work on that, but in the meantime, did you know that I have quick tips for the wedding night? Add your choice to the shower or wedding gift with a wink and a smile. Help a couple start out right!
What J’s Up to These Days
- In 2010, I got breast implants, and this past month, I got them removed. Based on my recovery, explant was the right choice for my health going forward. You can read more about my reasons here: Are Breast Implants Bad for You? Now I don’t believe that implants, breast or otherwise, are necessarily bad, but we should inform patients better and screen candidates for immune issues that could cause problems later on. Anyway, I’m feeling much better!
- Now that I’m healthy again, I’m eager to travel more! Wanna invite me to speak in 2022? Check out my speaking page and/or shoot me an email.
Biblical Inspiration for the Coming Month
After the Last Supper, Jesus told His closest followers, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” (John 13:35). We believe Jesus’s command applies to Christian community today.
What if it’s true of marriage as well? That is, what would people conclude about our discipleship to Christ based on our marriage?
What would people conclude about our discipleship to Christ based on our #marriage? @hotholyhumorous Share on XWhen I think deeply about this, I’m more aware of all the times I don’t treat my husband the way I should. I consider all the opportunities I miss to show him kindness, respect, affection, and covenant love. I ask God to intervene and prompt me to do better.
Not only will my marriage reap the benefits of sowing such good seed in our relationship, but my marriage then becomes a larger witness to the world of what I believe about righteousness, redemption, and love.
What about your marriage?
Another great selection of resources. Thank you.
J– is there any way you can round up some resources for those of us struggling with men with porn addictions? I am realizing after a year of new marriage and needed counseling in this year that the rarely there sex drive on my husband isn’t so much an actually low sex drive or potentially a hormonal issue but a still recovering porn addiction issue. It’s hard to be rejected by my husband frequently but even harder to hear that most days he’s fighting not to look at others while my naked body only occasionally earns a second glance. Looking forward to my honeymoon and getting very little sex and then this has not only shattered the hopes of prayers I’ve had but also the intimacy between us. My husband isn’t to a place where he can really say he has a porn addiction because it’s not active which makes this road even more incredibly difficult.
I’ve read more and more studies that are finding more lower drive young men have porn issues more than anything else. A list of resources to help us women in the crossfire would be so appreciated.
HUGS. What a hard journey! Praying for you. And yes, I can round up some resources on that. Thanks for the suggestion!
I deeply feel for you and know that this is a difficult place to be. I don’t have answers, but I will pray to the one who does have answers. God wants so much more for your marriage and He can bring healing. I also pray that J will have God’s wisdom in sharing resources.