Google “gatekeeping definition” and you’ll get this: “the activity of controlling, and usually limiting, general access to something.” When we talk about sexual gatekeeping, it refers to a spouse controlling or limited access to sexual intimacy. Unfortunately, it’s happening in many marriages. Here’s a question I received from a wife: I’ve been reading more and
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As usual, I’ve been thinking about great sexual intimacy in marriage and what it takes to get there. Are there principles that are must-haves to experience all that God intended for our marriage beds? I came up with four I believe are integral to healthy, godly sexual intimacy. Desire. I’m not talking about libido, or
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Today’s post is for the guys! Listen up, husbands. We hear all the time that men are visual. Do you ever hear what women are? Women are primarily aural. Which means they respond to the spoken word more than the visual image. I believe this is why porn is usually a stronger temptation for men and
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I live a weird life. Ask me about my profession, and I’ll answer that I’m a writer. But what I write gets a little more complicated — because I write about Christian sex in marriage and teen fiction. A few years ago, I joined the Romance Writers of America (RWA) — the largest writing organization in the United
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Today’s question is from a wife who was put on bed rest during a complicated pregnancy. She wants to know what to do about their sexual intimacy when everything is off the table. “Not only is intercourse forbidden, but any arousal on my part causes pain and strong contracting. It has been six weeks, so
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